You have heard of the popular saying “What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas” , well that applies even more so in Thailand, especially when it comes to a prostitute in Thailand. When I arrived back in the states from my first trip to Thailand, I was immediately assaulted with insinuations that I slept with underage prostitutes, and that I had unimaginable sex with multiple partners. Well, part of that was true. My first trip I slept with multiple women, but all were over 23 years of age, and yes they look young there so I check passports or ID cards, but some were probably prostitutes.
The underage laws in Thailand are very strict, for both the woman and the man, so the assertion that underage sex takes place all the time is simply overstated. Poor countries often take a beating from the media, it only takes a few truths to become an overwhelming fact in America. I will say for the record, that after all of my visits, I not once saw a woman under 18 with another man to this date. I may have seen this a few times in America, but not yet in Thailand. Does it happen? I am sure it does, much like it happens in Paris, France but it does not make news in Paris. If you go to Thailand with the idea that you are not going to sleep with a prostitute, at least your first few times, you are probably in denial. I will admit, that I stayed away from visible prostitution, but when I met a hot girl at a disco, whom took me home, and than in the morning asked me if she could have some money for food and cab fare, running me about 30 dollars, I can only assume I had been worked over by a working girl. Today, I know better, but at first, the interaction seemed so natural and “girl friend” like that you didn’t really put it together. I have picked up girls in college, that cost me more in drinks that night, only to have sex later and than never see them again, until three days later when they were with another guy doing the same thing. What’s the difference? I believe both girls are prostitutes, but if you change the country and the circumstances around just a little, only one girl will be labeled that, I think you can guess which one. An American prostitute will play any part for money, and still leave you feeling dirty and unsatisfied. The Thai counterpart does not “always” believe she is a prostitute, she actually attributes her actions the same way as that college girl I mentioned, and that’s monetizing her date for the evening while possibly closing a future boyfriend. She goes out dancing, finds a guy she likes and feels comfortable with, and than hooks up only to try and close for some cash in the morning. Call it what you like, but it’s not that different from dating in America. If you ask her if she is a prostitute, put your dukes up quick, because you might get slapped. In all reality there is no real answer in Thailand for the casual visitor, as the clues to depict freelance prostitution aren’t always obvious. I talked to a local in Pattaya, whom was from England, and he said that Thai women, as beautiful and fun as they are, just might be the best liars in the world. He was quick to admit, that he had been duped many times, and was a bit jaded in the dating process in Thailand. He did note however, that Thai men were never accustomed to keeping just one girl, married or not. His words have a ring of truth to them, but at the same time, so do the words of the gentleman whom never visited Thailand, and has stayed in his country of origin. Point being, this happens everywhere, but the more opportunities you get, i.e. Thailand, the more frequent you will be lied to. In America, my opportunities are numbered, as are my bad experiences. In Thailand, your opportunities are plentiful, as will be your mishaps in relationships. It all works out as a numbers game. What doesn’t work out is your opportunities in the Western World, and the lack of entitlement you will find in Thailand. The trade off gives Thai women the advantage overall, especially after you become educated in what to look for, and don’t blind yourself with you first given opportunity. Easier said than done, as many Westerners fall trap to the Thai girl charm and will give in to their every need, because even if the falseness of that given relationship was far greater than any relationship they had back in the states. Take your time, and choose wisely.
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