Staying true to my word that I was going to let it all go this year, we finally scheduled that trip to enjoy the benefits of adult travel in Jamaica. A friendly couple we had met at the SF Citadel told us about resorts where you could be romantic and keep it private or not private – your choice. We were thirsty for their stories and listened vehemently as they described the scenery, the people and genuine friendships they had made. It sounded like a dream; a dream we both deserved and wanted to make a reality. I was tired of feeling trapped in these clothes and in this society. I wanted to get away from it all and cool my head, release the tension. No work and no kids, just play, play, play in the pursuit of pleasure. We were going to get away from societal pressures and do things our way.
So off we went, my husband and I, to find some R&R, meet new friends and find excitement in our lives together. Having been married for 5 years, we both felt it was time for a little change in scenery and being away from the kids was necessary. I packed my bag with such excitement of what lay around the corner. The Jamaican resort from which we chose to enjoy the benefits of adult travel was a present to both of us, our first time trying something different.
Adult travel includes leisure to take the stress away. We were far from our friends and family. The responsibilities of everyday life seemed arbitrary to me as we were laying naked under the sun listening to the sounds of joyous carelessness and freedom of the others around us. That same joy was melting the stress away from our shoulders. Just then I could feel all the insignificant crap I let affect me on a daily basis slide away. Why do I let the small things, or even the big things affect me so? Well it ends right now, I thought to myself.
If I can journey here and enjoy my deepest intimate pleasures with the one I love, leave all my baggage behind and totally let loose with strangers in that moment, then how is that moment any different from the other moments in life? I can make any moment the way I want it. I have the ability to choose what I do with my life and who I share it with and I am doing so. Following desires instead of ignoring them is the ultimate vacation. That trip was a fantastic eye opener to what our lives could be and what we wanted for ourselves. I continue to think fondly of that trip and our decision to make it an ongoing reality to get away from the aggressive expectations of home and work, and really feel the true nature of just being “us”. This is why I enjoy the benefits of adult travel most.