In any Culture, will always find distrust amongst Couples. Thailand is no exception. Trusting your new Thai girlfriend will become your most difficult task at times. Monogamy in Thailand is seemingly far less prevalent than the Western world. We will always be able to find cheating but in Thailand opportunity is only around the corner. When I first arrived in Thailand some of the questions I would ask girls that I scheduled a date with would involve monogamy. To get a better picture I would ask them about their previous relationship with a Thai man. I would guess somewhere in the realm of 90% would all say the same thing. “Thai man no good” when you get to know the women in Thailand you can understand why some Thai people would cheat so much.
There are so many seemingly single Thai women which gives the illusion that Thai men can get their pick of the litter every week of their life. However after closer examination the women of Thailand also have a lot to choose from. It’s almost as if they have 6 to 7 different boyfriends to choose from at any given time especially since the internet has widened their social fishing nets. Thai people have a word for this called “Gik or Gig”. “Gig” suggests that you are a friend with benefits and also the temporary boyfriend or girlfriend. However, no one comes out and says this is my “Gik”, the word itself carries a negative connotation. So how do you know if you’re a “Gig”? You probably won’t until its too late. Thailand is the number one country in the world for castration due to a cheating spouse. The women of Thailand have some similarities that you would find in men from America. One example is that American men are up front and forward when attracted to someone. So when a Thai woman wants an American man it’s comforting to know that rejection is fairly rare if your just polite and well mannered. In the Western world world women are prey to the men, so Western women act in accordance by using the “avoidance” technique. This is not so in Thailand. I am not saying that all Thai women are easy, however, if she likes you, she will let you know. I find Thailand to be different than other Asian cultures in this sense as they are not quite as submissive as their Japanese or Chinese counterparts. For this reason they take on a different challenge and that is one of trust. I can’t tell you how many friends I have that have been clearly overtook by Thai girl charm. We seem to personalize and individualize their conversations with us. They are absolute experts at convincing you that they have stumbled upon exactly what they’re looking for in a man. I sat in a bar next to a local Thai resident from Australia. He was very educated and could speak fluent Thai after living there for 15 or so years. He told me that Thai people were the most unique liars in the world. I said “Wow, thats quite a big stereotype don’t you think?” He told me every culture lies he just thinks the Thai way of lying, is much harder to detect. Those words stuck with me, because Thai people are so polite and so helpful and always seem to be happy, that the last thing I would think this culture was into was a grand lie. I understand what he means now, at least when it comes to Thai women. I have to say myself that I have found very few faithful young Thai women. I believe that because the Western woman chooses, her choice lies in exactly what she wants, so cheating is minimized. Thai women are chosen. They might tell you your handsome or say what a lovely man you are, but ultimately in this culture the man chooses. The Thai woman seems to be looking for marriage and family today more than her American female counterpart. The new Western woman chooses with such high scrutiny that when she gets her selection she rarely defaults. I don’t believe the Thai woman gets the right man often. She simply accepts offers at will until she is pregnant with children. Even then these social commitments are often broken because of what she’s used to and how she handled past failing relationships. With this in mind please remember, that all the cooking, cleaning, and unsurpassed sexual healing, you still must also provide her wants and needs within her cultural confinement without being told anything, something Western women won’t hesitate to do, if something is bothering them. If you do not do this you will most likely be her next victim. One more thing to remember is that most Thai women seemingly engage with men that are older than they are. So if you are looking for a woman and you are 45 to 50 and you happen yourself upon a beautiful 22-year-old Thai girl, then you are just asking for trouble. What looks like a dream will most likely end up in a major heartbreak. This isn’t because she is Thai, this is because she’s 22. With you there will trust issues every single time. It is my advice to find a date closer to your age, if you are serious about keeping her. So where does the Spying come in? Listen, marriage is a big step, and if you are thinking about taking it, at least in this culture I would suggest setting a few traps to “make sure” things are what you perceive them. Some might say “I shouldn’t have to do that, or that is just not right and somewhat overboard and Psycho” I would re-inform them of the success rate of Thai-Farang marriages and what percentages of these marriages fail to a cheating spouse. Cover your steps, you really don’t know everything. In most cases you would think that the person that engages in these “SPY” activities is doing so because of paranoia or past relationship experiences. I would say in the Western World this is true. However, you are a Westerner you are also an expert on Western Women, in comparison to your new thai counterpart. If you marry, do some backround checks, marriage is the final step, make it the right one.